Why you should Marry

So many things have been written about this topic, but I just want to look at the issue from a slightly lighter but deeply important angle.

Marriage we all know is almost a cultural imperative in most climes, that is, when you get to a certain age, you are automatically marked for marriage. From that point, everything is done by all parties concerned until you eventually fulfil that requirement – transiting from single status to married life.

No doubt, this age long status quo has started receiving some knocks from here and there, and gradually it is becoming acceptable for some people to want to be left alone. We are coming to terms with terms like “Single mothers/fathers, “baby mama/papa”, what used to be an accidental occurrence is becoming standard and acceptable practice.

I quite agree that everything in life is a choice – God created us as free moral agents, we are completely at liberty to choose what we want in life, including the freedom to chose whether we even want God himself –  awesome amount of freedom, isn’t it? But does it mean we should use up all our liberties? Let’s move on from there.

Some have also argued that the Son Of God and some great Apostles were single for life. I believe you. But believe me, they had a calling and they received grace to maintain their singleness without breaking the heart of God with sin and scandals.

Mind you, we are not referring to people who have become single out of no fault of theirs, we are concerned about those who have for one reason or the other purposed that they will remain single for life.

People normally arrive at this line of reasoning when they feel they can do without whatsoever benefit marriage can provide, but can they truly do that? It is becoming common for young ladies with well paying jobs to see all young men as intimidated, gold digging, heart breaking and unfit souls and such prefer to run their race alone. We also have young men, who have come to feel no woman is worth the trouble, having been brutally hurt by women in the past and therefore want to remain single. Some have also opted for singlehood just because they had one or two kids down the line while growing up, thinking that marriage is all about procreation, they now feel there is no more need to get married. I am not too sure I have fully researched the impact of raising kids without the compliments of either parents, or even a replacement.

I quite sympathize with the fact that we all have bad experiences in the past, and we may tend to feel all men/women are the same; however, it pays to let the past go and do the right thing. It is painful to note that the person that hurt you has so moved on and has created a lovely family, while you have created a ministry of singleness to honour the evils he or she did to you. It is also possible that God has so much blessed you that you seem to have problem finding someone at your level, maybe you need to get some dosage of humility, just thinking.

You may want to ask why I am so bothered about getting everybody married. God designed marriage for partnership, companionship and protection. As you progress in your resolve to remain single, can you enjoy all the above benefits (which we all need), yes, without breaking the law of God and worse still creating problems for yourself? Can you enjoy companionship over a long term without getting someone pregnant or contacting infections and spiritual contamination?

Some who have vowed to remain single, are today enjoying evil partnerships and companionship with other people’s husbands and wives. Some ladies who thought singleness is a one-stop solution to all life problem have had reasons to replace loneliness with a child or two from different fathers in some instances, and having to live with the stress of “baby daddy” and sometimes raising kids alone. Some will come across their dream husbands, only after they have taken the wrong detour. I give you a thought, if the career prospects and wages available at age 28 when the lady decides to go alone ceases to exist at age 42 when she has 2 kids all by herself, I tell you, she will need men, I mean men, to help. I can credit myself with this thought, “a woman who will not submit to a man, will eventually have to live her life submitting to men”

 As a man, marriage is meant to provide you protection from the evil consequences of sinful indulgences. In these days of very fatal sexually transmitted diseases, can you really be protected when your doors remains open to all comers?

Before I forget, some have also argued that there is so much problems in marriages, they have friends who are married but sad, lonely and equally as sinful as some singles.  Some single girls, for the mere number of married men in their boyfriend/toasters portfolios actually believe that marriage may not be worth it.  Yea, I ask, have you seen all marriages? Is every married person on earth unhappy? Have you gotten advances from all married men on earth? If there is one happy marriage out there, and if there is one faithful husband/wife out there, then why not look at the bright side?

In conclusion, if you are not Jesus Christ or Paul the Apostle, re-examine your decision to remain single. Do not make permanent decision based on temporary situations, you may feel self-sufficient today, things do change you know, it is smarter to prayerfully safeguard your future, life and destiny by getting married. If you doubt if marriages still happens, drive around town on Saturdays, God can make it happen for you too.

Do not start what you do not have capacity to finish, say YES, and get married!!!