As we look forward to the New Year with hopes of getting
better bargains in different areas of life, one aspect of life that has to be
taken into consideration is our love and marital relationships. It is important we prosper in this area of
life just the way we expect to flourish in finance, health, and even
spirituality.
It is quite clear that marital stability, peace and harmony
has a great potential to free you to pursue your other life aspirations without
any encumbrances. It is also becoming
very clear that relationship challenges represent the biggest nightmare of the
modern day Christian, single and married alike.
The online media is presently awashed with reports of a wife
who physically assaulted and brutally injured the husband over his inability to
take care of the home. At the same time, there is another case of a celebrity
who just announced her divorce from her 7 months old marriage over irreconcilable
differences. You will see different
comments on these issues and you may want to get confused over what should be
or what should not. Truth is, this could have happened to anybody, we don’t have
to be judgemental over these issues, but we can learn from these experiences.
The greatest nail that will hit a marriage is discouragement
– that is when you give up! At this stage, you do not think there will be any
change, you have exhausted your patience, or your disappointment over what has
become of your once darling spouse has gotten to your nerves. Ladies and
Gentlemen, experience as a single and married person has taught me that all
relationships will have issues somewhere down the road, and all our lovely
partners will manifest shortcomings sooner or later. Were you thinking of
walking out on your man or women in 2014? Please think twice, the next man or
woman you will meet is also a baggage of
issues you are yet to see. Scary isn’t it? You equally have a ton or even lorry
load of issues which will take another pair of eyes to uncover, which is why
marriage cannot survive if we don’t learn how to show mercy.
I will caution therefore, that no matter how short-changed
we feel about our mates, please temper justice with mercy, knowing full well
that you are not perfect too. Always
remember that you were once attracted to this fellow, where did all the passion
go, at what point did you allow faults to overcome the strength of your
partner, I beg of you, look for those strong points in him or her again, every
human being blossoms in adoration, if you keep tapping into his or her strong
points, with time, you will see nothing of the weaknesses. It is because we
want to force them to correct all the weaknesses in the first few weeks or
months of marriage, that we have irreconcilable differences and the marriage is
thrown into the trash can of a painful history.
If you find yourself as the sole bread winner of the home,
take it as an assignment from God. I don’t think you intentionally went out to
marry a jobless man or women, this is life, things happen and things change, it
could have been you that is jobless. I have seen sacrilegious cases of women
hooking up with their ex-boyfriends (single and married alike) just because
their husbands were out of job, in the name of survival, what happens to
dignity and sanctity of marriage?
I heard a testimony of a Sister recently, she was a high
flying banker when her husband was earning N40,000 per month. She reduced the
man to houseboy and cook since she was the one paying the rents. Few years down
the line, she is out of job, and the husband is a General Manager earning over
N600,000 per month. She is now so humbled by her wicked acts and the relentless
love the husband has showed her that she has decided to tell her story.
Ladies and Gentlemen, as we enter the new year, let us have
hope, most people get married in good times, but let us be steadfast and trust
God when the storms come or even when expectations are not met, don’t jump ship
because there is storm, remember, no
condition is permanent.
Remember the story of Michelle and Barack Obama, Barrack was
an ordinary community worker who was still struggling to pay tuition debts
years after getting married and Michelle was there through the painful years,
but now, their address is the White House. Stand firm by him or her, your own White House experience is on the way!
