Thursday 7 November 2013

This Golden Eaglets, Age and the future of Nigerian Sports




It has become a routine for self-styled age analysts to begin to raise issues any time Nigerian age grade Teams are making impact at the world stage. It is only when our Youth Teams are better prepared and more talented than their counterparts from other parts of the world that Nigerians who seemingly don’t like good things will begin to ask questions on the integrity of the ages and durability of the players. Usually, when we participate in such tournaments and fail, what usually follows is huge wave of criticisms on the players and coaching crew, and such critics will not usually remember to suggest how such players who could not deliver could be improved to deliver at other levels in future.

 It is a shame that even professional sports analysts and media personalities still could not resist the temptation to disparage Nigerian Youth Teams over age issues even after FIFA, the world football governing body has introduced the MRI testing process to detect over-aged players.  In 2009, our Team was beaten by the visibly bigger Swiss U - 17 Team to lift the Trophy right at our backyard here in Lagos, and nobody cried foul, even the Swede Team at the 2013 UAE U - 17 Tourney are imposing in stature compared to the very youthful and boyish looking Nigerian lads. I just wonder why we have to be so unnecessarily self-righteous and hypocritical. If you don’t have proof that someone was born in a particular year, and the process established to confirm the passport age did not throw up any issue, please why not appreciate the fact that someone has done a good job in assembling a Team of young lads from Nigeria who are taking the world by storm.

The next concern of most critics has to do with  if these great players of this stage will become truly great in future, if they will ever match Ronaldo or Messi. Some has gone ahead to ask for the whereabouts of players like  Macaulay Chrisanthus of the Korea 2007 fame and Sani Emmanuel of the Nigeria 2009, as if it is so hard to run a simple internet query to find out where these players are. Some even will go to the extent of comparing John Mikel Obi’s progress with Lionel Messi who were silver and golden ball winners respectively at the 2005 U - 21 World Cup. Frankly, these are all lame and ignorant and baseless queries. Why compare Macaulay with Toni Kroos, what about his own Team mates like the bulky Richard Sukuta-Pasu who tormented the other U-17s as a striker but is nowhere near the German national Team at the moment?

 First of all, in life, it is not every member of a particular class that will go on to become Doctors, Lawyers, Civil Servants and the rest at the same time. People will always take different paths with diverse outcomes and implications for their future. It is not only in Nigeria that you find players from a particular Team fizzling out after the tournament. People are always quick to mention Luis Figo of Scotland ’89 U – 17 World Cup, it is true he played for long, but it is also true that some members of the Nigerian Team at the same tournament like Victor Ikpeba, Godwin Okpara and Benedict Akwuegbu also went far in their careers while most of Figo’s  Portuguese ’89 Team mates also fizzled out.
I can’t remember how many Brazilian players of the Nigeria ’99 fame made as much impact as Ronaldinho and probably Julio Cesar. The Argentine Team at Holland 2005 gave the world Lionel Messi,  but which of his other team mates have achieved Messi’s type of career feats? In every case, you have players who will stand out internationally, and some who will retire to local reckoning and some who will remain average achievers, this is true for both Nigeria and every other country, that is why the likes of Joseph Yobo and Rabiu Afolabi of Nigeria ‘99 are still active and John Obi Mikel, Onyekachi Apam, Chinedu Ogbuke and the rest of the 2005 Flying Eagles Squad are still doing their bit all over the world.

 The point here is that, age grade competition is more of a platform for budding talents but not every single member of a Team will become superstars in every sense of the word, it is just not possible.
It is even unfair to compare the progress of an African player struggling to make it in Europe with an indigenous European born or bred kid without considering the constraints and challenges. Toni Kroos will always do better than Chrisanthus because he is German and playing in the German League.  Don’t forget the rules on the number of non-EU players that can feature for a European side. Do you think this is not a limiting factor on the careers of most African players? Chrisanthus was in Germany for awhile and has moved to the Spanish lower rung league. Sani Emmanuel struggled to find a place at Lazio, where his Team Mate, Onazi Ogenyi  has established himself, and he has consequently moved to the Swiss League to explore his opportunities further.  Even European players as well as their South American counter-parts go through spells at the lower rungs or less fancied Teams. I remember Ronaldo made his European debut through the Dutch side PSV Eindhoven even after lifting the 1994 World Cup with Brazil, the very lethal Carlos Tevez played for West Ham United, so please, our former youth players are not lost, you can find them if you want and they still have a chance to make it big. If you check well on the internet, you will see the history of every player, and you will know that some of our former youth team players have indeed been active in different parts of the world. If you are concerned that they are not in the big Teams, ask yourself, are all ex-youth internationals from Spain playing for FC Barcelona or Real Madrid, were they all called up to the Senior Team?

The Senior National Team cannot contain everybody at the same time, even Bojan of the 2007 Spanish U - 17 Team is yet to make it in the national team, but our own Lukman Haruna from the same tournament has one World Cup appearance under his belt while Ogenyi Onazi and Kenneth Omeruo of the 2009 edition have won the African Nations Cup already and heading to Brazil 2014. Kanu Nwankwo, Wilson Oruma, Celestine Babayaro and Mobi Oparaku were instant hits with the senior Teams after Japan ’93 U – 17 World Cup and Kanu has gone on to become a legend that represents football globally.  Meanwhile, no one from the Argentine Team at the 1993 fiesta got any form of international fame, but the Italians who finished bottom of their group managed to give us Gianluigi Buffon and Francesco Totti. Nduka Ugbade, first black man to lift a FIFA World Cup at the China ’85 U - 17 Tournament represented Nigeria into the ‘90s and he alongside Manu Garba and another ex - Youth International Emmanuel Amuneke are tutoring this current world beating Golden Eaglets side.
So how can you prove that Nigeria players do not progress after age grade tournaments or how can you validly assert that it is only Nigerian players that fail to advance after the age grade tourneys?

I wonder why nobody ever asked about the Egyptians, Tunisians and Algerian players who also attend these tournaments - they all become stars in their local leagues.  This is now the heart of the issue. The major reason why pundits will believe our players don’t make impact after these youth tournaments is that the bulk of them will not make it to Europe after the tournaments, and we rate success only by what a player achieves in Europe, sadly though. It is unfortunate that we do not watch the local league, otherwise, you will notice that we have so many ex - youth internationals providing quality services in the local league. But unfortunately, since the local league is unappreciated, poorly covered and draws no special attention, these players too struggle through their careers in oblivion, and therefore easily get maligned by pundits as age cheats who failed to achieve their potentials. This is very unfair.
I would have loved to say that we should create a platform to transition our youth players to European Leagues to ensure they remain visible and relevant, but apart from the fact that this is not  a very patriotic recommendation, the restrictions and the market driven nature of the Leagues abroad will not allow such wholesale trafficking of young players.

So the only option left is for us as a nation is to invest seriously in sport academies, improve the quality and coverage as well as followership of the local leagues and ensure all first tier League Teams have Youth/Feeders Team structure for continuous transition. We should also find means to create more sport facilities at Local Government levels to ensure kids at the grassroots level develop their sports instincts earlier on in their lives. By doing all these, we will be able to develop and groom young talents on an ongoing basis and Nigeria will be able to impress the world every time.

As we celebrate the achievements of the UAE 2013 Golden Eaglets, we should be hopeful that with little efforts from all stakeholders, Kelechi Iheanacho, who has been rated by fifa.com as one of the best player of all times at the U - 17 level and his other extremely talented colleagues like Musa Yahaya, Abdullahi  Alfa, Isaac Success, Taiwo Awoniyi and others will be around for a long time to come and Nigeria football will be better for it.

Saturday 2 November 2013

Common Mis-conceptions on Marriage and Relationships


Some commonly used marriage related phrases are not completely true and prone to leading people in wrong directions. Well, they may sound true to you depending on your background, but maybe going through them again may give you a different perspective.
You can make mistakes in other areas of life and recover, but not in marriage

Nothing can be more false than this. For fear of making mistakes, many are crippled and condemned to singlehood. There is no mistake, including marital mistakes that you cannot recover from. Sometimes, recovering from marital mistakes can be the easiest, all it requires at times is for you to change your perspectives and expectations, or maybe seeing the glass as half full instead of as half empty. Even the best choices soon appear like mistakes, while some potentially poor match ups end up well, it is all in the mind.

Marriage is not meant to be endured but enjoyed
I am a fan of marriage being fun and enjoyment. But what is it in life that is all fun and no stress? My friend, we will need to endure to have a lasting marriage.  Changes will occur at different stages of the marriage in different areas, and it is the ability to patiently navigate the issues that will determine how far the marriage will go. The enjoyment at all cost mentality could be the reason many cannot survive the first storm that visit their union. Life will give you stuffs, sweet and bitter, you must learn to enjoy the fun and manage the pains.

Love will see you through
Love is indeed powerful, but marriage requires more than love. People who were passionately in love few months back are getting divorced. You need knowledge and wisdom to deal with the issues of life that all marriages are exposed to. If you have the right tools in addition to love, you will virtually have a blissful marriage.

You must marry your best friend
It is very important you marry someone you know well, someone who understands you.  However, even if you are the lucky type that grew friendship from primary school level and ended in marriage, even friendships do have downtimes. Have you not had different best friends throughout different seasons of life? Even best friends have issues at times, and sometimes end up going their separate ways. What I think is most important is to marry someone who understands that marriage is a long term commitment, your best friend may not always have that understanding, if he or she does, lucky you.

Your mate must be compatible with you

This is the greatest lie of all time, quote me anywhere. Do you really think you will like to spend the rest of your life with your own “photocopy”?  It is good to be with someone of like mind, but truth is, with time, you will realize you still have areas of differences. I am sorry to disappoint you, we are all unique and different, no one is compatible with anyone. If you want to succeed in relationship, embrace diversity and learn to explore the differences in your spouse to the advantage of the union.

.......Types of people you must not marry
This is the title of so many books on relationship.  I went through one of such books and I concluded that the title of the book should be changed to “There is nobody to marry”. Humanity is short in glory, and you will never find that person whose flaws are not in the list of people you must avoid. It is either you marry and accept the flaws, or you allow someone deceive you into believing that he or she has no flaws, your shock at the end may send waves that will sink the marriage.

Your husband or wife must remain your boyfriend or girlfriend
This is assuming everybody had boyfriend or girlfriend. For you to appreciate how mis-leading this is, can you tell what the life of boyfriend/girlfriend is like? You probably had excess cash, your babe comes over, no kids, no bills and nothing to worry about, so you spend your time without distraction and maybe visit the best fun spots in town. Marriage comes with kids, baby food, school fees, expensive house rent, and some career choices that can keep the couple busy all year round. There is a place for balance, but you can never have that kind of free time and free money anymore (except you are from the Omo Baba Olowo clan of course). Maturity to accept what has changed and make the best out of it is key to sustaining a long term relationship.

The man’s job is to provide for the family
This statement negates God’s purpose for marriage. If all a woman will do is to sit back and “chop”, then God did not have to create Eve for Adam. God’s idea of help mate is not fulfilled with a woman who only collects cash and spends, I can’t see any help in spending money, I can spend my money myself. A woman should come into marriage with some value she can add to the family. The man is called to be the head of the home, but he will achieve more if the woman in his life is carrying out her assignment of being a help mate.

My thoughts actually, you can disagree.