Realities of Marriage I

Everyone keeps talking about a certain factor called "reality" that comes into marital relationships post-wedding and turn things around. What is this reality actually? Why is this so called “reality” so pervasive and damaging to marital relationships?

 Indeed, Love they say is blind, but someone also said that marriage is an eye opener. But should Love really be blind or pretend to be? Let’s leave that for another occasion. Love usually happens with some fresh sparkles and the euphoria of a fresh combo generates some chemical reactions that literally affect ability to make “critical appraisal” of the entire situation. Essentially, people are usually blinded by the excitement of a “new thing” happening in their life and further deafened by the fear of losing out “yet again” and having to resume the search from scratch.

 Normally, with time, the chemical reactions begin to wane and the fear of losing out diminishes. This situation could be due to a variety of factors including the good old “I have got the trophy mentality”, familiarity, relapse to discontentment (usually from comparison and regrets), resentment caused by emergence of faults not previously identified and so many other factors.

 At this stage, it is so easy to see faults and count errors. The curtain seems to have fallen, the scales have been cleared and clear vision is restored. Truth is, most of the faults were always there, you just managed to see them now because other factors that were blurring your vision no longer hold. Most people at this point begin to feel it’s over with love and end up jumping out to catch the next high tide of emotional roller coaster.

 Truth is, the best of men are still men, and the most beautiful daughters of Eve on earth are all human after all. Won’t it be better to take stock of your assets and “liabilities” before signing for self-delusion? You can see the human in your lover now, and not the “Angel” you started out with. Meanwhile, it should comfort you to know that Angels are spiritual beings, and have no interest in mundane matters of the heart, so you and I are stuck with humanity.  It is possible you can argue that your spouse or mate is as “good” as an Angel, I truly thank God for you; you are breaking scriptures. Watch it, wake up and be real!!