It is amazing that we can blame one person for the personal weaknesses of another. How could a husband or wife stop their spouse from making the “choice” to go out and seek out another partner? Do not forget that the cheating partner also has the choice to remedy whatever problem that is limiting his or her happiness in the marriage.
An illicit affair does not usually happen by chance, it does not just hit you like thunder as you walk on the street, and Infidelity is a process with ample exit opportunities. You see and feel the desire, you pursue or allow a pursuit, you yield and you go further to make clandestine arrangements to cover up the indecencies, and at each stage, you have the chance to opt out. Cheating is a deliberate act carried out by a willing soul from a yielded heart, and really has little to with what another person did or failed to do. You can take this to the bank!!
I am yet to see any couple that took a vow that says “if I am not happy with you, I will cheat on you”. If you know you are built to pay back every act of displeasure from your partner with one amorous affair or the other, won’t you rather consider living single and free to roam? Why do people want to keep their Marital Status intact while they roam the streets doing what even single people are too ashamed to do? Are you aware that the marital vow includes a line that says “forsaking all other men or women”? Have you explored all avenues to resolve issues with your spouse before looking outside? I bet you, looking outside “is in you” and has always been, if not, when it comes to you as a tempting thought, it will never develop into an act.
I will like to conclude by saying that it does not matter what your spouse did to you, and I don’t care who you are cheating with – driver, boss at the office, maid, ex-lover, business partner, church member or even pastor, it is your choice and you are fully responsible for your actions. Your husband or wife can be the best, and you still yearn for the forbidden taste of illicit pleasure because you are yet to deal with the issue in your heart, you will still yearn for the sour taste of wanton lust.
I will advise every married man or woman to take responsibility and take charge of what goes on in their hearts. Communicate your needs to your partner and work out a mutually beneficial plan to have your needs met within the confines of your marriage. Remember that no one is perfect and no situation is perfect, even cheating will not satisfy you as it sooner or later will introduce life changing complications. It will interest you to note that, most of the time, the third party involved is not even good enough as wife or husband, and again, you are just an additional option of pleasure for him or her by the mere fact that you are married. It is important to note that whatever is not working well in your marriage today probably worked perfectly at the beginning, why not make it work again, together without desecrating your marital bed and exposing your life risk of STDs and reproach that comes when what happened in darkness comes to light.
Indulging in infidelity as a married person is like being the Chief Medical Director of a Hospital, and sneaking into a Juju shrine for some un-branded, un-tested, un-licensed and dangerous concoctions meant to cure an unknown illness. Enjoy the protection that marriage offers, stay within your bounds and explore limitless possibilities to attain happiness with your spouse!!
Concluded.
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