A lot of NGOs, movements, and careers are being built these days around the issue of domestic violence. Quite expectedly, violence in the home has assumed a very dangerous dimension in recent times.
So far, I see so much efforts on condemning the abusers, who are predominantly men and a few women who took fatal steps to show their anger to their spouse. However, nothing much is said about the underlying causes of these domestic acts of violence including the subtle ones which usually involves emotional and verbal abuses.
As far as we know, there can't be violence at home if there is no issue of disrespect and lack of love. We are not going to go into the argument of which one comes first, husband loving his wife, warts and all or the wife respecting her husband even when he has lost his common sense. The key thing is that violence will erupt if any of these two ingredients are missing, it does not matter which one is the first to disappear.
The best anyone can get from a respect-less and love-less marriage is marital showmanship (we are Mr and Mrs parole), anniversaries and maybe a few visits to the maternity wards....there can't be real fulfilment.
So I will think that we need NGOs and missions focused on teaching women to respect and honour their husbands, in words and actions even after realizing they are smarter and probably earn more. The men should also be taught to love with awareness and deep compassion, this is now different from the love that was based on her being "correct babe".
Whether it is the woman that is being physically abused, or the woman that is either physically or verbally assaulting or daring/teasing her man provocatively, the outcome is always bad and destructive. It is disappointing to go through the hassles to get married to live like that, I believe a new level of education is required to manage this ugly trend. Get on board with your thoughts and ideas.
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